Life with a few lemons

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William Suter

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Hate to air family issues but life has sure thrown me and my family a sack of lemons lately. A year or so ago the wife (kinda ex, kinda not) was having hip issues. Our Dr kept giving her pain meds but they weren't helping. In January it got so bad she couldn't walk. I ended up putting her in the hospital. They said she had pneumonia and covid along with her hip and leg issues. She stayed in the hospital 5 weeks and only on the 5th week did they address her hip and leg issue and IMO it was to late and she ended up loosing her left leg above the knee. All this time I am making two trips to Tulsa everyday. Then she went into rehab and that was local but I still was there twice a day sometimes more and this lasted for 20 days. All the time, I'm taking care of my house and hers, feeding the pets and paying the utilities ect. I also had to build a ramp to get her in and out of her house with a wheelchair. Now I take her to physical therapy three days a week to learn to walk with her new leg. Today was a trip to Tulsa for a breast examine and luckily they found no cancer. Tomorrow the heart DR for a check up on her other leg. Then therapy starts again on Monday. Lucky for her and I, we both have decent insurance. So far the out of pocket is doable and isn't going to bankrupt her or me as I've been helping with the bills on some of this. Hospital was $250,000 and her new prosthetic leg was $42,000. How anyone without insurance could possibly make it is beyond me.
Somehow I still make it to the club and get my work done there and even get to shoot a little now and then. Nothing near what I use to do but once in a while. Hunting season is about to kick off and I haven't stepped into the woods yet to check out my spots. Maybe before Oct.1st I can get there.
The last 9 months have been rough on this old man. Almost gave up a time or two but kept telling myself I had to keep going for her. Some days I just sat with my head in hands and did the best I could to get up and do what needed done. So far I just make lemonade out of the lemons.
 
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Her BIL had hip surgery, got infected, chopped part of that leg off. Eventually lost both in 2 yrs. Passed from cancer (they didn't find till too late) this Jan. She's about broke and trying to sell the house. Never did like lemonaide that much. Yes, med expenses are extremely high now. And US is rated lower than Canada now. They used to come here for med treatement. Thanks Obummer.
 
popper43 said:
Her BIL had hip surgery, got infected, chopped part of that leg off. Eventually lost both in 2 yrs. Passed from cancer (they didn't find till too late) this Jan. She's about broke and trying to sell the house. Never did like lemonaide that much. Yes, med expenses are extremely high now. And US is rated lower than Canada now. They used to come here for med treatement. Thanks Obummer.
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I'm not trying to hi-jack this thread, but my g/f is from another country and she works in the medical field. She said it is crazy what we have to pay for stuff here compared to the other countries she has worked in and she has even worked in the UAE.
 
crapshoot said:
You're a good man. I'd tell my ex to pound sand.
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I signed papers in 2012 but she never filed them. So on paper we are still married. Actually it isn't to bad. I do what I want most of the time and don't have to ask permission. LOL, I have more money to spend on "stuff" and don't get in trouble. She's on one side of town and I'm on the other. Actually we get along better now than when I was living with her. We hardly ever argue and when we do when I get tired of it I just say adios and go home to my place. Actually works pretty good.
 
William Suter said:
I signed papers in 2012 but she never filed them. So on paper we are still married. Actually it isn't to bad. I do what I want most of the time and don't have to ask permission. LOL, I have more money to spend on "stuff" and don't get in trouble. She's on one side of town and I'm on the other. Actually we get along better now than when I was living with her. We hardly ever argue and when we do when I get tired of it I just say adios and go home to my place. Actually works pretty good.
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Sounds like my ex. We were great friends until we started dating. It's crazy what just putting a title on it did. We went back and forth for ten years until I just got tired of it and wanted more.
 
2012 was a bad year for me. Wife hit me with a divorce, lost the house which I just paid off and my job moved to Kentucky. Took a while for me to get my stuff together but its mostly all good now. Luckily for me I was old enough to retire even though I was just shy of my goal to work there for 30yrs. Missed it by 2 yrs. I think living apart is the best thing that came out of it. I'm here for her if she needs help and I can count on her to help me. It's not the best but it works. Between SSI and my investments I live a pretty comfortable life. Not well off by any means but I don't want for much. Roof over my head and food to eat, bills are paid and some nice big boy toys. I can't really complain. I spend most of my time keeping an eye on her until she gets back on her feet.
 
hang in there, it will all work out. anytime you need to vent, gripe, complain, let off steam....just come here and let it go.

works great on another site i frequent. we have a powerful prayer chain too, so.....Prayers sent for you, the ex not ex :) and all family 🙏🙏
 
You are for sure a good man Mr. Suter. Your strength to keep supporting her when faced with stress and frustration is commendable. You know it’s the right thing to do. Sacrifice for the benefit of others… That is something that seems to be waning in today’s world. I am happy to see that you still have that in you sir! You will get through this rough spot. Our creator will not burden you with more than you can handle. That is not to say you will not be tested in life.

You are among friends here sir. Find strength in friendships. Find strength in God. I hope for the best with your situation.
 
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